Personal FinanceKameleon007 / Getty ImagesChristy Bieber
Financial infidelity can be a serious issue in a marriage.
It happens when one or both people in a couple are dishonest about their finances.
A Reddit poster was accused of financial infidelity, but it turns out that there were bigger issues in her marriage.
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A Reddit user said her husband accused her of financial infidelity based on her spending — despite the fact that she and her husband are both high earners and they had a financial arrangement that she lived up to. His behavior was a big red flag, and subsequent updates showed that there were deeper issues beyond just questions of how she spent her money. Here’s what happened to the original poster (OP), along with some details about how money conflicts can derail a relationship. An accusation of financial infidelity was a sign of a bigger problemThe OP explained the circumstances about why her husband accused her of financial infidelity and it’s clear that his claims were suspicious from the start. She said she and her husband were both high earners, each making around $200,000 per year. They own their home free and clear, they have no other debts, and they save close to half of their income. They keep most of their finances together, but they each allocate $1,500 per month plus bonuses and side hustle money to separate fun accounts they can each spend however they want.The OP’s husband usually spends his fun money on hobbies, like golf, while the OP doesn’t have costly hobbies so she typically saves a good amount of hers. Since she had a lot saved up, when she got back into gaming, she spent $5,000 on a nice gaming computer, a good desk, and a chair. Unfortunately, she said her husband “blew up” and accused her of financial infidelity do to these purchases even though she only spent the money that was saved in her separate account — which she thought was the agreed-upon rule. She and her husband ended up getting into a broader fight about the nature of their relationship, with her husband insisting that she alter some of her other behaviors by doing more around the house because she’s not on the “executive” track at work.Ultimately, after some back and forth, however, it came out that her husband was having an affair with someone he met at work and the couple ended up separating. In this particular case, the strange money behavior was just an excuse or justification for her husband’s own bad behavior. This can sometimes be the case. If a couple usually shares finances very well, but one person start